So much has been heard and spoken about the concept of love. To some, love is a strong feeling, emotion or force that holds the entire universe in shape. According to the Webster dictionary, “love can refer to a variety of different feelings, state and attitudes ranging from interpersonal affection to pleasure. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion and affection – the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”.
There is this story about two young men named Moses and Efe who were childhood friends. Moses was always getting into one form of trouble or the other. Efe, who was more disciplined, was always helping Moses to get out of trouble. With time, they left secondary school and went on to pursue their dreams at different Universities. While in the University, Moses joined himself to a cult group because he needed to “belong”.
In one of their raids, Efe’s campus was attacked and unfortunately Efe was shot by close associates of Moses. Efe knew they were Moses’ associates because he could recognize and identify Moses in their midst. He suffered some injuries from which he later recovered after several weeks of being hospitalized. Six weeks after graduation, Moses was involved in a terrible accident and needed an urgent kidney transplant, else, he wouldn’t live long thereafter.
Upon hearing the news, Efe’s first response was “well that serves him right after all he did to me; abandoning me in the cold”. That night, Efe couldn’t sleep because his heart kept convicting him of the need to forgive Moses, so he visited the hospital the next day to see Moses. On discovering Moses’ dire need for a kidney to stay alive, he donated one of his kidneys to Moses.
Moses couldn’t help but break into tears when he saw Efe and learned of his decision to donate one of his kidneys to him because he remembered the evil he had done to him in the past. In the end, Efe led him to accept Jesus Christ and today he is taking territories for God’s Kingdom.
From this simple story, it is very clear that Love is the very essence of our existence. Without it, the world wouldn’t exist. Love is so strong that it can make someone do what may seem impossible. Abraham loved God and was willing to sacrifice his only child born to him by his beloved wife Sarah at an old age. Love grows with intimacy.
The more intimate you are with a person, the more the power in love grows. You can find this applicable to your spouse, friends, neighbours and relationship with the Holy Spirit. Love is the best anti-depressant. Without it, the more depressed you are likely to feel.
Love however, is not feelings of lust purely based on sexual interest, feelings of ownership or control (manipulation), Obsession (e.g. over involved parenting or a spouse always checking up), feelings of neediness (insecurity or low self-esteem), etc. It is not a tool for using people or binding them to your side.
True love is unconditional and a choice we choose to make. It is something from which you should not expect anything in return. If you cannot love another person without attaching stipulation or request, your love is called “emotional bribery”. It is a mere transaction. It is you who must make the decision to love all the time even though your feelings may present numerous reasons why you should not. The only way to be truly free is to choose the way of love because God is love and where the Spirit of God (or love) is there is liberty.
There is no failure in love. If you choose to love, you would have succeeded even when the person you love does not care.
Pastor Osasu Arasomwan
2nd Vice President SLGEM